Anyone who is clean and sober will undoubtedly experience periods or moments in which the desire to drink or use comes back. This is to be expected. Experiences such as using dreams, emotional highs/lows, and emotional landmines set off by life experiences are par for the course. Someone who is newly sober may experience these things so often they wonder if life will ever normalize. Rest assured, the ups and downs of life become less intense the longer you stay sober, but life still happens! Generally speaking, as someone begins accruing more sober time they are able to get through the struggles more gracefully. The path we travel is turbulent at first, but it does smooth out.So how does someone who is living a sober life prevent themselves from being derailed when these inevitable difficult life situations occur? Every person is different, and what works for one may not for another, but there are some general things a recovering person can do that are considered effective for sustained sobriety. Let’s list four practices out.Reaching out to someone you trust who understands what you’re going through.Redirecting your attention to something/someone else.Reframe the way you look at a situationRecognize what you can do to better the situation or take care of yourself. 1. Reaching OutThis is hands down the most important step someone with an addiction issue can take! Most of the time it is also the most difficult. It may be less difficult for someone who has been sober for a long time then it is for someone who is newly sober, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. Reaching out for help to get perspective on a life situation invites a more objective party into the situation. Connecting with another human being who has dealt with a similar issue is invaluable!2. Redirecting AttentionThis is an action that may well be the crux of maintaining sobriety. Step out of your world and into someone else’s. Do so with no conditions! Just listen to someone else and what kind of help they might need. Do so with the sole intention of seeing how you can be helpful. Sometimes this may be helping someone else who has issues with addiction, but this can be practiced in every aspect of life from family and work to our social lives!ea3. Reframing PerspectiveMany people with addiction issues have a tendency to catastrophize things. Defaulting to spinning life situations in a negative light is common. A helpful practice is to reframe the way we look at things. Shedding a positive light on something can work wonders for the energy we bring into a situation that is difficult/depressing/overwhelming. This doesn’t mean we just think happy thoughts, or wear a smile all the time! Changing perspective is hard! It may be as simple as looking at challenges or setbacks as temporary situations that are opportunities to grow stronger. 4. Recognizing What You Can DoIn any situation there are things we can and can’t control. Those of us with addiction issues frequently swing from extremes of thinking we need to control everything to believing we can change nothing. This is something that most of us struggle with to some degree. There is a balance between these two extremes that is not easy to find, and frequently we must go back to Reaching Out for some assistance in determining what is in our power and what is not. If we have not done our part to change something we should take that action. If we already have, and are not satisfied, then we should probably just let it go. Letting go of the things we can’t change is not easy, and if this is especially difficult then Reaching Out one more time could be useful. The Bottom LineBy no means does getting sober mean we are exempt from the ups and downs of life. Everyone is still subject to experiencing the struggles, hardships, successes, celebrations and moments of malaise that come with being a human being. The gift of sobriety is that WE GET TO EXPERIENCE THESE THINGS, and we grow from them in ways we couldn’t when actively using! Sobriety allows us the opportunity to start over, and to have a new experience with life. When we list the problems have now and compare them to the problems we had before getting sober we see that they are quality problems. Certainly there are exceptions, but most of the day to day struggles/triggers we experience pale in comparison to the ones we dealt with in active addiction. Utilizing all four of these practices can help us to get through the inevitable struggles that come with living a sober life. It should also be noted that you cannot touch one without touching the others! Someone who puts them into practice will find that they rely on one another. They are tools that can be especially helpful for those of us with addiction issues, but they can be useful for anyone struggling with a life situation. The most important thing to remember is that regardless of what you are going through, you can get through it sober!To learn more, visit Ardú Recovery Center’s website. Reach the facility by phone at (801) 823-6832 or by email. Find Ardú Recovery Center on Facebook and Instagram
Saturday, April 4, 2020
Tuesday, March 31, 2020
Resolution: Getting and Staying Sober in 2020
For many of us, the end of a year or the beginning of a new one signifies renewal and change. The tradition of making resolutions for the year to come is common to many of us. For the person struggling with addiction or problematic substance use, it could be a resolution to stop engaging in the behavior that is having a negative impact on their life.Changing a behavior is hard! Resolving to get more exercise or finding time for an old hobby is difficult enough. How on earth is someone who is addicted to a substance or behavior expected to make a lasting change? Where do they even begin?Letting go of an addictive behavior is definitely possible, and the beginning of a new year is as good a time as any to make this change! If you are still on the fence, it may be helpful to take a really objective, practical look at the pros and cons of stopping an addiction. For someone who has not struggled with addiction, it may be obvious that it’s worth stopping, but an addicted person’s thinking can be distorted when it comes to the substance or behavior that is causing them problems. Sometimes, writing out the ways a behavior is damaging and why it should stop is helpful for someone who is unsure of whether they are ready to make a lifestyle change. One of the best things someone who wants to change an out of control behavior can do is reach out for help. This initial action is one of the most important steps in directing someone with an addiction toward lasting positive change. Making the DecisionThere are a multitude of ways in which people achieve sobriety. Choosing a residential facility, withdrawal management/detox centre, sober living, or a support group can feel overwhelming. This is one of the benefits of reaching out to someone for help. Having support during the process of making these decisions early on can make it a smoother, less stressful experience.Withdrawal ManagementOnce you’ve made the decision to stop using alcohol or other substances, you should determine whether or not withdrawal management (e.g. medical detox) is necessary. For those addicted to alcohol, opiates/opioids, benzodiazepines, or barbiturates this is usually a good idea. Getting through the physical detox period of these substances is difficult and can be fatal depending on the duration and quantity of the drug being used. An assessment should be made by a medical professional if one of these substances is being used.Residential TreatmentOnce detoxed, many find that entering a residential treatment center is the best idea. A residential treatment center can offer guidance and structure that may be crucial for someone who has recently stopped engaging in their addiction. Underlying mental health issues can be addressed, and reestablishing positive habits, behaviors, and routines can make a big difference in achieving lasting sobriety. This is also the period that many people begin exploring options for maintaining sobriety. There are multiple options available. The 12-Steps are the most well known program for maintaining a recovery-oriented lifestyle, but they are not a good fit for everyone. SMART Recovery is a newer recovery program that has been very effective in helping people achieve long-term recovery. With its roots in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, SMART meetings are held internationally. They offer a program that deals with addictions of all types, from gambling and food to drugs and alcohol. Many find the logical, non-faith based approach that SMART takes to be one of it’s biggest attractions. These may be the two most popular support organizations for those with addiction right now, but that doesn’t mean that they are essentials to a recovery lifestyle. There are a variety of ways that people maintain recovery. The most important thing to remember when checking out these options is to just keep an open mind. If there is something that seems useful or makes sense, hold on to that piece. You can discard what is not applicable or useful. Deciding to seek help at a residential treatment center is another exercise in reaching out. It means you have a treatment team ready to provide support as you begin your new life. It also means you will have other people who have chosen a sober life to interact with. The relationships people build with one another while in treatment offer another type of support that frequently extends beyond residential care.Meaning and Purpose - What NowOnce unintoxicated, many people find they are missing a sense of meaning and purpose. So many feel like they are coming out of a fog and are without direction or hope. Even those who managed to retain a strong sense of self, duty, or obligation may find themselves questioning these things once they are no longer actively using. This is a unique and personal experience for everyone. While these feelings and thoughts can be unsettling, they should be explored, not avoided. This is a key part of establishing a solid footing on the new road you are walking; deciding which direction you are headed!Regardless of what direction you choose to go on your sober journey, it is important to keep an open mind. It’s a journey of exploration and discovery! Learn more at www.sunshinecoasthealthcentre.ca or reach Sunshine Coast Health Center at (866) 487-9010 or by email at info@schc.ca
Saturday, March 28, 2020
The 5 Most Common Myths About Faith-Based Addiction Treatment Programs
Whenever the topic of faith comes up, there are almost always variations of opinions and strong viewpoints.Let’s look at dispelling five of the most common myths about faith-based addiction treatment programs.Myth #1: Patients Are Not Interested in Faith ProgrammingDr. David Rosmarin is a psychology professor at Harvard and the Director of Mental Health and Spirituality at McLean hospital, ranked number one in psychiatric hospitals for adults in the county by Healio Psychiatry. Dr. Rosmarin was a guest on my Faith in Recovery radio show in June 2018. What’s interesting is that of the top ten psychiatric hospitals throughout the country, McLean hospital is the only one that has a spirituality program. McLean conducted a study on the significance of spirituality as it relates to mental illness.In a study on the significance of spirituality as it relates to mental illness, 58.2% of patients coming into McLean’s psychiatric unit requested to have spirituality/faith programming as part of their treatment. According to an article McLean published on April 25, 2013, “Our work suggests that people with a moderate to high level of belief in a higher power do significantly better in short-term psychiatric treatment. The study concludes belief in God is associated with improved outcomes in psychiatric treatment.” This brings us to the obvious question! Why is McLean hospital the only one of the major psychiatric hospitals who offers faith programming? I believe it has much to do with the increased politically correct environment. People are afraid to offend anyone, in particular regarding the topics of religion and mental illness. People may feel as if they are walking around on egg shells, which results in overlooking programs that are proven to be effective. Let’s not put political correctness over the many people afflicted with mental illness or substance use dependency who are in desperate need of help.Myth #2: Faith Programs Are Judgmental and Condemning As a Chaplain in our Faith in Recovery program, the three things I hear the most are: “Why does God allow suffering?” “How do I know what God’s will is for my life?” And the last one is a statement: “I stopped going to church because I was forced to go when I was young and all I felt when going was guilt, shame and judgement, so I stopped going.”According to the 2017 Lifeway research survey, “66% of Americans between 23 to 30 years old stopped attending church on a regular basis after turning 18.” It’s a sad commentary on the Church, especially since it’s supposed to be a place of healing and acceptance. I experienced the same thing growing up and as soon as I was old enough to stop going, I did just that.Not all churches have a judgmental environment. There are some incredible churches out there, but the damage has been done and it’s difficult to turn the perception around. What is disturbing is the fact that the teachings of Christ and all that He did were the exact opposite of guilt, shame and judgement. Apparently somewhere during the past two thousand years some churches didn’t get the memo.A faith-based program in a treatment setting at its core must be non-judgmental. The majority of our patients are coming in with tremendous guilt and shame. The last thing they need is to have more of that directed their way. In fact, one of our groups is called “Overcoming Guilt & Shame.” When coming into treatment for substance use dependency or mental health disorders, patients need to be treated with respect, and they need to know that God loves them. He wants to forgive them and has a plan for their lives. It must be emphasized that they have value and a purpose and most importantly God values them. When people truly begin to realize these things, the light begins to open their eyes and the seeds of hope emerge. It’s an incredible sight to witness and I am blessed to have a front row seat on a daily basis.Myth #3: I Won’t Fit In, I’m Not Very ReligiousI think this is similar to any topic that we do not feel we are well-versed in or do not know much about. In general, we tend to shy away from the things we are unfamiliar with or which we associate with a bad experience. Not fitting in is simply not the case. We meet every client right where they are at on their spiritual journey, even if they have no spiritual journey at all. We have patients who grew up in the Church and fell away, those who never stepped foot in a church, devout atheists, agnostics, Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist, and those coming out of the occult. All are welcome and treated the same. Often times in 12-step treatment, the default setting is “I already heard this.” This contrasts with the faith programming most patients have never heard. This is all new information to them, which gives us a fighting chance to keep their attention. More importantly, our patients begin to face their fears. They realize they are much stronger than they think they are. Myth #4: They Will Force Me to ConvertOne of the things we hear in our faith program is: “I liked it because beliefs were not forced on me.” As one of our former patients, Richard, said in his testimonial video, “One of my biggest things is there’s a connection with God, but I don’t want Him shoved down my throat all day long… it’s so far from that, but it’s so connected it’s amazing.” I believe the reason so many feel this way relates back to what we discussed earlier: They were forced into attending church. We all know when forced into something--especially in our adolescence--we tend to rebel against it.The reality is God gave us the gift of free will. He never forces us to do anything, so why should we force Faith on someone? All we can do is plant the seeds and water them. God is the one who transforms people’s hearts. We do not have the capacity to change someone’s heart. Myth #5: We Will Not Be Allowed to Share Our ViewsThis point actually came from a group in our Faith in Recovery program after I asked for their feedback on myths about faith programming. A few patients stated that one of the concerns they had prior to coming into the program was that they would be talked down to and their opinions would not be heard. After experiencing the group, the consensus was that it was the opposite of this concern; that they were actually encouraged to share their thoughts and perspectives on their faith and to always ask questions. When patients feel that they are not being heard, they tend to shut down completely. This is the exact opposite of what we are trying to have them accomplish in treatment. Transparency and being completely open is an essential part of getting better. Most patients have been suppressing things for far too long so the last thing we want them to do is shut down.It’s not surprising that people have this preconceived notion of faith programming as they may be associating it with the years of sitting in the pews being preached to with little opportunity to ask questions. We focus on who our patients are becoming, not on who they were in active addiction. What I witness on a daily basis is patients encouraging one another, praying for each other and providing a listening ear to someone who is struggling.If those who are in treatment are given the opportunity to speak, you will be surprised at the profound and insightful things they have to say.
Wednesday, March 25, 2020
Treating the Growing Trauma of Family Separation
Q&A with Developmental Psychologist Hirokazu YoshikawaThe US immigration policy that has separated more than 5,400 children from their parents had spurred psychologists and pediatricians to warn that the young people face risks ranging from psychological distress and academic problems to long-lasting emotional damage. But this represents just a tiny part of a growing global crisis of parent-child separation.Throughout the world, wars, natural disasters, institutionalization, child-trafficking, and historic rates of domestic and international migration are splitting up millions of families. For the children involved, the harm of separation is well-documented.Hirokazu Yoshikawa, a developmental psychologist at New York University who codirects NYU’s Global TIES for Children, recently looked into research on the impacts of parent-child separation and the efficacy of programs meant to help heal the damage. Writing in the debut issue of the Annual Review of Developmental Psychology, he and colleagues Anne Bentley Waddoups and Kendra Strouf call for an increase in mental health training for teachers, medical doctors or other frontline service providers who can help fill the gap left by the lack of mental health providers available to cope with the many millions of children affected.Knowable Magazine recently spoke with Yoshikawa about the crisis and what can be done about it. This conversation has been edited for length and clarity.Are there any good estimates of the number of children throughout the world who’ve been separated from their parents? Exact numbers are hard to pin down, especially because several of the categories involved — like child soldiers and child-trafficking — aren’t well reported. What we know for sure is that the number of people around the world being displaced from their homes is at a historically high level. In 2018, some 70.8 million individuals were forcibly displaced due to armed conflicts, wars and disasters. That’s a record, and given that these phenomena often result in family separations and that more than half of these individuals were children under the age of 18, it suggests that historic numbers of children have been separated from their parents.Why have such family separations become more common? Many factors are driving it, but climate change is playing an increasing role in displacement and armed conflict all over the world. Climate change reduces access to dwindling resources and contributes to natural disasters, like floods, droughts, crop failures and famine. All of this increases conflicts, drives migration and breaks up families. This is not a blip in history; it’s a trend we will have to live with for generations to come.What’s most important to know about the damage that comes from children being separated from their parents?There are thousands of studies on the power of disruptions of children’s early attachments to their parents to cause longstanding problems. We’re talking about cognitive, social-emotional and other mental health impacts.The developmental study of the mechanisms that may explain why these separations are so harmful goes back to before World War II, with the work of psychoanalysts and scholars such as Anna Freud, John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth. In 1943, Anna Freud and Dorothy Burlingame studied children who’d been evacuated from London and learned that in many cases being separated from their mothers was more traumatic for them than having been exposed to air raids. When families left London but stayed together, the children behaved more or less normally. But when children were separated from their mothers, they showed signs of severe trauma, such as wetting the bed and crying for long periods of time.Later on, Bowlby and Ainsworth published their more well-known studies of how infants form attachments with their mothers, and how sensitive and responsive parenting is key to forming secure attachments both with parents and later on with others. Researchers have found that this process can be disrupted in prolonged separations — say of more than a week — before the age of 5.More recently — for example, in the ongoing and high-profile studies of Romanian children who were raised in abysmally low-quality orphanages — researchers have shown how children in institutional care have suffered from poorer learning and social and emotional behavior due to the lack of intellectual and emotional stimulation and the opportunity to engage in relationships with caregivers.How seriously children are affected can depend on factors such as whether the separation was voluntary or not, how long it lasts and what kind of care exists in its wake. Permanent loss of parents can create some of the most severe consequences, while long periods of parent-child separation, even if followed by reunification, can seriously disrupt a child’s emotional health. Children are generally more vulnerable to long-term harm to their social-emotional development in early childhood, up to five or six years, but no period of development is immune.One major problem we see is that most children who are separated from their parents have already experienced some other trauma along the way, which then makes the separation even harder. When parents are present, they can often help buffer the impact of extreme adversity from bad experiences.What did you learn that most surprised you as you reviewed the scientific literature?The sheer range of outcomes was surprising to me — beyond learning and achievement and mental health outcomes, they include very basic human functions like impaired memory, auditory processing and planning. They also include a range of physiological outcomes related to stress that are themselves related to long-term disease and mortality. So parent-child separation as it is currently experienced can shorten lives and increase the chances of physical disease.Meanwhile, something that didn’t surprise me because I’m immersed in this literature all the time, but will probably surprise your readers, is that there are now about 8 million children in the world living in institutional care. This is a problem that reflects the lack of robust foster care and capacity of governments to facilitate placement with relatives, who will generally give more stable care than strangers. As we state in our review, even in otherwise good-quality institutional care, children suffer due to the high turnover of caregivers. What relevance does your work have for US policies that have led to many parents and children being separated at the border? US officials should know that there’s a global consensus, expressed in the UN Convention on the Rights of Children, on how to respond to children’s needs in this context. Primarily that means avoiding separating children from parents whenever possible and, when it must happen, keeping it as short as possible. An overwhelming amount of research, going back to Bowlby, supports these guidelines.Unfortunately, we don’t have a lot of research findings on children separated from their parents while awaiting detention. And it doesn’t make it any easier that the Department of Homeland Security has had so much trouble keeping track of the kids involved.Yet there are hints of the kind of negative effects you might expect to see if you look at the research on children whose parents have been detained without warning, for example in large workplace raids to arrest undocumented workers. In these cases, researchers have found that children have missed school and suffered behavior problems and depressive symptoms.This brings up the fact that, in the United States, we’re talking about many more than 5,000 children being separated from parents. While the separations at the Mexican border have gotten a lot of media attention, millions of other children across our country are affected by the relatively recent harsher, sweeping policies resulting in more detentions and deportations of immigrants already living in the US. This has created a climate in which the threat of family separation is omnipresent.We’re particularly concerned that many children separated from their parents stop going to school, perhaps from lack of supervision or from the need to support themselves or family members. The humanitarian sector tends to focus on basic needs and that’s understandable — they want to save lives. But from a developmental perspective, we have to focus on whether children thrive, not just survive.Unaccompanied children who are trying to migrate are an increasing part of this global problem. What kind of special risks do they face? It’s true that there has been a significant increase in recent years in unaccompanied minors trying to migrate internationally. At the US border, this increase has been happening since the 1990s, due to both economic crises and increases in urban violence in Mexico and in Central American countries. But the trend is now accelerating. From 2015 to 2016, there were five times as many children estimated to be migrating alone than from 2010 to 2011. In 2017, more than 90 percent of undocumented children arriving in Italy were unaccompanied.Compared with refugee children who flee with their families, unaccompanied children are at greater risk for trauma and mental illness. One study of refugee children attending a clinic in the Netherlands found that the unaccompanied children were significantly more likely than those traveling with their families to have been victim to four or more traumatic events in their lives, including during their travels. They also had a higher rate of depressive symptoms and even of psychosis than refugee children living with their families.What are some of the best ways that governments and nonprofit organizations can help these children? Whatever can be done to avoid the separation from parents in the first place and to avoid detention and institutionalization of children whenever possible is in the children’s best interests. (That’s the guidance from the Global Compact for Refugees, Article 9 of the Convention on the Rights of the Child, and other global rights documents.) After that, it’s a matter of limiting the time away from parents or other caring adults as much as possible. The earlier and younger that children leave institutional care for stable foster care or adoption, the better it is for them.You can see this in some of the follow-ups of the study of children in Romanian orphanages. Children who left the orphanages for foster care by 15 months of age had trouble speaking and understanding in early childhood, but not later. Children placed before 30 months showed growth in learning and memory so as to be indistinguishable from other children by age 16. So recovery from early institutionalization is possible, but it may take longer if a child spent more time in the orphanage.What kinds of programs for children, if any, can help lessen the impacts of being separated from their parents?In general, programs that help equip children for their daily lives can be useful. That includes education in decision-making, problem-solving, communication and stress management.Teachers and doctors can play a major role, at minimum by identifying children who need mental health services and directing them to programs. The fact is we’ll never have enough mental health providers, so it makes sense to train members of the education and basic health systems that are already in place.In the review, we describe a few of these efforts. One that stood out for us took place in two schools in London where children on average aged 12 to 13 had been separated from one or both parents due to war or migration. They came from Kosovo, Sierra Leone, Turkey, Afghanistan and Somalia. Teachers identified children who needed services, and who then spent one hour a week for six weeks with a clinical psychology trainee doing cognitive behavioral therapy. The treatment helped reduce PTSD symptoms, and the children’s teachers later reported that the children were behaving better in the classroom.Granted, this was a very small study with no longer-term follow-up, so you can’t draw very strong conclusions, but it hints that even such a short-term intervention can be helpful in addressing children’s traumas. Studies have shown that even as few as 12 sessions of counseling from people trained in cognitive behavioral principles can help many people.Do we have any idea of how many kids are being helped by these sorts of interventions? Are we still mostly talking about small experiments?We’re not anywhere close to meeting the need for services. Unfortunately, health systems worldwide continue to overlook all kinds of mental health needs, particularly in low-income countries, even as depression and other mental illnesses take an economic toll, leading to reduced lifespans and reduced economic activity. The economic costs of mental health problems are huge, yet this may be one of the most underinvested areas in terms of health care.The largest program you describe is in China, which isn’t that surprising, given how many internal immigrants China has. Yes, there are potentially tens of millions of Chinese children and youth whose parents travel to cities to work and leave them behind, in the care of grandparents or other relatives. Between one-third and 40 percent of children in rural areas of China are in this situation. And there’s a lot of research documenting that these children are doing less well than children who are being raised by parents.We describe one community-based program involving 213 rural villages with nearly 1,200 left-behind children. For three years, each village designated a space for after-school activities for the youth and hired a full-time employee to provide welfare services. The findings suggest the approach helped reduce disparities between the left-behind and non-left-behind groups.What if anything gives you hope that this situation may improve?The outcry over the US policies has increased awareness about a very vulnerable population of children. That could be a silver lining of the crisis. These parent-child separations are going on not only at the border, but also all over the country. The hope is that the attention will increase support for organizations, such as the national Protecting Immigrant Families Coalition, that are working to make a difference.When it comes to children throughout the world who’ve been separated from their parents, we need a lot more people to be aware and concerned so as to provide the attention, stimulation and care that can help them recover.Editor's note: This article was updated on January 24, 2020, to clarify that in addition to teachers and medical doctors, Dr. Yoshikawa and his colleagues also recommend mental health training for all frontline service providers. 10.1146/knowable-012320-1 Katherine Ellison is a journalist, author and mother with a keen interest in issues related to parenting. Her latest book is Mothers & Murderers: A True Story of Love, Lies, Obsession … and Second Chances.This article originally appeared in Knowable Magazine, an independent journalistic endeavor from Annual Reviews. Sign up for the newsletter.
Monday, March 23, 2020
These Homes for Mentally Ill Adults Have Been Notoriously Mismanaged. Now, One Is a Gruesome Crime Scene
ProPublica is a Pulitzer Prize-winning investigative newsroom. Sign up for The Big Story newsletter to receive stories like this one in your inbox.On the afternoon of Dec. 3, workers at the Oceanview Manor Home for Adults found resident Ann McGrory, 58, lying on the floor, lifeless, with her pants down around her ankles. She had cuts and bruises on her hands, head and face. By her side, seated atop his bed in Room 512, was resident Frank Thompson, 64, her sometimes-boyfriend who had a reputation at the home as a heavy drinker with a short temper. The aides called police. Thompson was brought into custody for questioning later that day and placed under arrest on Wednesday.He is charged with second-degree attempted murder rather than murder because the medical examiner has not yet determined the cause of death to be a homicide, according to a law enforcement source. McGrory also had serious preexisting medical issues, including brain cancer. The criminal complaint, however, lays out evidence that McGrory was severely beaten. She was found with a bruised, swollen eye, blood on the back of her head, broken fingernails and what appeared to be blood beneath them. Thompson has not yet entered a plea. Brooklyn Defender Services, which is representing him, declined to comment because the case is in such an early phase.The incident is the latest in a decades-long string of controversy at Oceanview Manor and other adult homes throughout New York City, which are occupied primarily by impoverished adults with mental illness but are gradually taking on seniors in need of assisted living.In the spring of 2017, a ProPublica reporter spent parts of several weeks at Oceanview, where ill and unkempt residents could be seen eating from garbage cans and using outdoor dumpsters as toilets. They complained among themselves of thievery and predation, as well as failed intervention from state regulators. There were two deaths in a matter of weeks and police responded to several emergency calls there, including one related to a resident who had slashed another. At the time, an attorney for the home denied any stabbing, attributed the deaths to natural causes and said that comparing the current state of the homes to their scandalous history was unfair.In 2002, a New York Times investigation found that adult home residents had been exploited for profit and received subpar health care. Disability rights advocates sued the state, arguing that mentally ill people had been warehoused in Oceanview and other adult homes in New York City, violating their rights under the Americans with Disabilities Act. After more than a decade of litigation, a federal judge ordered the state to assess and move out residents capable of living independently.In 2017, lawyers representing the adult home industry sued the state on behalf of a single former resident at Oceanview, who allegedly decided to move into his own apartment under the new state program and then changed his mind, wishing to move back into Oceanview because he missed life there. Rather than allow the man alone to move back, the state agreed to temporarily suspend a rule limiting the number of mentally ill adults who can live in the homes. The state has reinstated that rule.In spite of its problems, the home, like at least a dozen others, is moving into a state-sanctioned business model to care for the elderly and infirm. ProPublica reported this year that hundreds of mentally ill residents have been certified as assisted living recipients, which allows home operators to bill more for their care.According to the complaint against Thompson, video surveillance footage at the home shows him and McGrory entering his room together at 2:35 p.m. At 2:50 p.m., McGrory opened and then closed the door to his room, but no one else entered the room. At 3:48 p.m., workers entered the room and later told police that they saw Thompson trying to remove McGrory’s pants. It is unclear whether McGrory was asking for help when she opened the door or what prompted the workers to ultimately enter the room.McGrory was pronounced dead by Emergency Medical Services at 4:57 p.m.“We are shocked and saddened by these horrifying allegations and are investigating,” said Jonah Bruno, a spokesman for the New York Department of Health, which oversees the home. He would not say whether the home’s administration had properly reported the incident, which would be part of the department’s investigation.Asked what McGrory’s fate says about the home’s ability to care for people with such extensive medical and psychiatric needs, Bruno said, “Adult homes are capable of providing varying levels of care based on levels of need and are required under state law and regulation to only accept residents for whom they can provide appropriate care.”Lisa Vider, the home’s administrator, did not return a phone call for comment on this story. But Jeffrey Sherrin, an attorney who represents Oceanview, said, “The incident is under investigation, and so far as we know, no cause of death has been determined. We are unable to comment, and we must also respect resident privacy.”Fellow residents say both Thompson and McGrory had recently struggled at the facility.Patricia Rosetti, 68, said she had shared a room with McGrory in the group home since 2014. “She was so lonely all the time,” Rosetti said. “She was divorced and had a son and it drove her nuts that she couldn’t see her family.” ProPublica made efforts to reach her next of kin but was unsuccessful.Rosetti said McGrory had been repeatedly hospitalized for a variety of psychiatric and physical issues. Over the summer, Rosetti said McGrory had gone to the ocean wearing nothing but her underwear and came back scratched and bruised by the rocks. She spent the next couple of months in a mental hospital and was scheduled for an operation on her brain in January.Rosetti said that McGrory had struck up a kind of relationship with Thompson, which worried the roommate because of his drinking. “I told her not to hang around with him,” she said.Thompson’s roommate, Rufus Lane, 74, and his friend Johnny Lide, 69, sat across from Rosetti on a bench in a smoking section outside the home. They nodded as a fellow resident described Thompson’s temper but then came to his defense. “He would talk shit to me all the time,” Lide said, “but I never paid him no mind.”Lane and Lide said that Thompson liked to drink but was not a violent person. They were surprised that he had been accused of hurting McGrory.“That girl was his heart and soul,” Lide said. “I can’t see him doing no shit like that. That shocked the shit out of me.”After about 30 minutes last Wednesday, workers at the adult home asked a reporter to leave the premises, saying it was private property.“Nothing happened here last night,” one said.Filed under:Criminal JusticeHealth CareThis story was originally published by ProPublica.
Thursday, March 19, 2020
Thinking Beyond Dry January
Have you given up booze for the month? If so, you’re not alone. An estimated one in five Americans are participating in “dry January,” the health kick-turned-social media phenomenon that urges people to forgo alcohol for the month. If you’re participating in dry January and seeing benefits, you might be curious about long-term sobriety. Getting sober — even for the short term — has many health benefits. Studies have found that people who participate in dry January lose weight, save money, sleep better and have more energy. All of those benefits can lead to you wanting to give alcohol (or other substances) less of your time, money and health during the year ahead. In fact, research has also shown that people who start the year sober drink less over the course of the year. “The brilliant thing about Dry January is that it’s not really about January,” Dr. Richard Piper, CEO of Alcohol Change UK, told Inverse in 2019. “Being alcohol-free for 31 days shows us that we don’t need alcohol to have fun, to relax, to socialize.”Here are a few common experiences during dry January, and how they can inform your relationship with alcohol and other mind-altering substances in the year and decade ahead. You Cut Back, and Felt GreatThis is a common experience for dry January participants. They realize that they don’t need alcohol to feel good, and that in fact they often feel better when they haven’t been drinking. Waking up on weekend mornings with a clear head, or going to bed without a rumbling stomach from drinking too much can be addicting in and of itself. If you find that you’re feeling better without the booze, take a critical look at your drinking habits. If drinking doesn’t ultimately make you feel better over all, why are you doing it? Often, we drink in social situations without really considering why we’re imbibing. As you move away from dry January, become more mindful about when you really want a drink, and when you’ll be just fine with a mocktail. You Participated, but Struggled Some people who participate in dry January are surprised at how difficult it is for them to cut out booze for 31 days. If you participated, but struggled to go without drinking for a whole month, it might be a sign that you use drinking as a coping mechanism. Sometimes, you think you’re in control of your drinking, until your patterns are challenged. If you found it very difficult to be sober, or looked forward to the end of the month with relief, you should ask yourself some tough questions about your relationship with alcohol. What need does booze fill in your life? Do you feel like you’re in control of your drinking, or has the balance shifted and your drinking is controlling your behavior? Don’t be afraid to reach out to qualified professionals who can help you sort through these questions.You Couldn’t Stay Dry, or Didn’t Participate Some people start January with the best of intentions, but end up drinking before the 31st because staying sober is too hard. Others opt not to participate in the first place because the idea of a sober month seems too challenging. This can be a sign that you’re not in control of your drinking any more, and it’s time to make more drastic changes, like talking to treatment professionals. If you find yourself in this camp, it’s important not to be embarrassed. Alcohol use disorder and troubling drinking patterns are very common in our country. The important thing to remember is that alcohol use disorder is a progressive disease. If you catch it early and get the help that you need, it’s much easier to build your life around a healthier relationship with alcohol. However, if you leave it untreated you’re likely to find that you’re drinking more and more over time, and that you have less control over your drinking. Dry January may seem like a fun and lighthearted challenge, but it can also be a powerful tool for evaluating your relationship with alcohol, and reclaiming your power over drinking.Asana Recovery offers residential and outpatient treatment in Costa Mesa, California. Learn more by calling 949-438-4504.
Monday, March 16, 2020
5 Life Skills You’ll Need in Recovery and Where to Learn Them
It’s often said that people with substance use disorder stop maturing at the age they were when they started using. If you were addicted to drugs or alcohol throughout your teens or young adulthood, you probably missed on out on learning essential life skills. That can make early recovery difficult. Not only are you adjusting to your new, sober life, but you’re also making up for lost time in learning life skills that are important for success. The good news is that most recovery programs can help you through this gap, and your sober community can help you learn these essential life skills. From conflict resolution to writing a resume and managing your finances, here are the life skills that everyone should learn in early recovery, and where you can find support for learning them. 1. How To Resolve ConflictEveryone who has relationships with other people experiences conflict. Whether it’s in your romantic life, among friends or at work, you’re bound get into disagreements now and then. When you find yourself at odds with someone, remember the communication techniques you’ve learned in recovery. Don’t attack or take things personally. Just focus on the issue at hand and working toward a common understanding.2. How To Write A RésuméMany people look for a job in early recovery, so having a resume on hand to highlight your skills is important. Many treatment centers and transitional housing programs can connect you with resources that will teach you how to write a great resume. State job programs can also help on this front.If you’re concerned about gaps in your resume, start with a bulleted section that highlights key skills. That way, you can show the skills and accomplishments that make you stand out, even if they’re not your most recent endeavors. Once you have a great resume on hand, remember that it’s important to tweak it to fit the desired skills of specific jobs that you’re applying to.3. How To Manage Time and Keep Yourself AccountableDuring treatment and transitional periods, you have a lot of structure built into your day. As you get more freedom, it’s important to learn to manage your time well, and to hold yourself accountable for this. Being on time — whether to work or for a meeting — shows that you respect the people you’re meeting with. During the early days of recovery consider making a weekly schedule. Make sure that there is time in it for the activities that help you stay sober, like meetings or yoga. Keeping yourself on schedule will help you establish new routines in sobriety.4. How To Manage Your MoneyMoney is a huge source of stress for many people. Knowing how to manage your money well can help keep stress at bay. When it comes to financial health, start with the basics: open a bank account and check your credit. From there, you can work with people that you trust to build a financial future. This might include paying past-due balances from active addiction, or saving for your own home.5. How To Create Healthy BoundariesOne of the most important life skills in recovery is knowing how to set and stick to your boundaries. There are likely certain people and places which you need to distance yourself from. You need to decide what your boundaries will be, communicate them to the people involved, and stick to the stated consequences if people violate your boundaries. Doing this can be difficult, but your recovery team is there to help, since this is critical for protecting your new, sober life.Learn more about Oceanside Malibu at http://oceansidemalibu.com/. Reach Oceanside Malibu by phone at (866) 738-6550. Find Oceanside Malibu on Facebook.
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